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Yearning Is the Greatest Enemy of Manifestation

There are countless approaches that promise to help us attract what we desire into our lives. To allow manifestation to happen. Many people have already tried countless techniques that simply do not work. Some may have spent a few euros—or even thousands—on these so-called truths. Manifestation has been familiar to me since childhood. One of my first remarkable memories was seeing a billboard with a snowboarder on it. At that time, snowboarding was not yet very popular where I lived, so it completely fascinated me. How could someone ride down snowy slopes on a single board with both feet strapped in? Our idols were skiers like Bojan Križaj and Mateja Svet. Out of nowhere, a thought crossed my mind: “I would like to snowboard too.” My parents did not provide everything my imagination came up with. I was not that kind of child. Yet I vividly remember casually mentioning this desire. It meant absolutely nothing to me. It was just another idea among many others, except this one did not seem realistic at all. And then we went to Austria. To buy a snowboard. Later, I pieced together all the elements of how this happened. It almost felt as though my parents wanted me to snowboard more than I did. Of course, I ended up riding that snowboard for the next ten years, and it was wonderful. Then again, during my teenage years, when we all had holiday crushes at the seaside, I would casually look around the beach and notice an attractive boy. By the evening, that same boy would somehow be sitting next to me. How was that possible? No words, no text messages, no stalking, no obsessive attempts to get noticed…

We can all probably find similar experiences in our own lives.

When we were young, we were more connected to ourselves than to our worries. The forces of life worked as they should. Then we entered a system that constantly tells us what we need to be happy, what we must do to be worthy. A whole collection of instructions and desires that are not even truly ours. And so we fell into yearning, striving, proving ourselves, and resisting the Force. The Force works ONLY when we are connected with ourselves. ONLY when we are unattached and when our desires are GENUINE.

Yearning, on the other hand, creates a sense of lack, powerlessness, and the belief that once something finally happens for us, then we will be saved. Then everything will be different, more beautiful, and better. This perspective places us in a state of helplessness and tightens a dangerous noose around our neck.

Yearning tells us that our external world must first change before we can feel empowered within ourselves. And so we find ourselves powerless, because we have no control over the outside world. Very often, a woman wants to influence her husband to become better, more attentive, more loving, and so on. Such an approach does not work because it is not rooted in truth. The woman remains in a state of powerlessness, developing a longing that has no healthy foundation, while the man moves into resistance. Of course, the opposite can also happen when a man tries to change a woman. When this path fails, exhausted partners often decide that divorce is their only remaining option.

Yet many of them manage, somewhere in the midst of their struggles, to hear a deeper truth. Yearning must be uprooted. It is a frequency, a force that cannot be removed through the mind alone. This force dominates much of the current world. Manipulation happens in many forms, clouding people’s minds, causing them to lose their values and their connection to reality. The question becomes: fight or flight? Do we fight the forces that do not support us and have flooded our lives, or do we run away from ourselves? The first choice is made by only a few. But that does not mean it is not the right one. While the masses follow images and influencers who play the role of victims, other shores are already emerging—places where there is no room for victimhood. My clients are always people who feel different, as though they do not belong in this world. They cannot find meaning or their place until we awaken it together.

The role of the victim is something natural. Everyone finds themselves in that position or state at some point, when life becomes too heavy. There is nothing wrong with that. It is simply important to know that we have a choice between different states of being and different frequencies.

When I thought about the snowboard, I genuinely did not care. I did not think about it every day. I did not build up a strong desire around it or make it the source of my fulfillment. I did not wrap myself in longing. I simply received it—with ease, without any effort to convince my parents.

There have been many such experiences in my life. But I also remember my first love. How much yearning I felt there. How many false beliefs I carried—that only through that relationship could I be happy, fulfilled, and saved. I was completely deluded. After high school, that seemingly perfect boy began experimenting with drugs. It was almost as though supportive forces were looking after me by ensuring that things did not work out between us and protecting me from that path. At the time, I could not see who he truly was. Even in high school, he was not really partner material, and yet I still longed for him. Yearning clouds the truth, clouds the mind, and destroys the bigger picture. It traps us in suffering, where manifestation completely shuts down. Whenever I listen to someone teaching manifestation, I first look at how that person lives. Do they truly have their life in order, or are they simply selling a theory that does not work in practice?

Unfortunately, there is plenty of theory and very little practice.

When a person comes into alignment with themselves, the vibration of lack disappears. Powerlessness disappears. The expectation that the outside world must change before we can be happy and fulfilled disappears. On paper, we all understand this and agree with it. Yet in practice, we still try to control the outside world. And how did I overcome yearning? Overcome is not really the right word. To shift frequencies, we need support from forces that guide us toward truth. Those forces were present. But that alone was not enough. The same forces also stirred up a situation in which I developed a strong desire for a very specific man. Because I recognized the feeling from my teenage years, I was able to remain clear-headed.

After all my experiences observing how pairing and attachment work within manifestation—both in my own life and with clients—I set that desired man aside and simply observed my feelings. The longing. The need. The belief that I had to have him. That I urgently needed him in order to be happy, fulfilled, and saved. That he was the only thing missing from my life. When I acknowledged those feelings, accepted them, and remained aware that they were arising from the vibration of yearning, powerlessness, and untruth, the vibration dissolved on its own. It lost its power, and in the very next moment I felt peace and freedom.

How does yearning affect children? Today’s world of abundance can be especially challenging for both parents and children. There is hardly enough room for all the toys, yet children often feel empty. They need more attention, bigger toys, and stronger stimulation. When the frequency of yearning is strong within a home, tension only increases. It is essential for a mother to bring supportive vibrations into the household. This becomes possible when she herself stops living in longing. When she enters a state of peace, the child naturally follows. A simple stick found in nature becomes an entire story. The child returns to imagination, returns to contentment. The need for constant parental attention falls away, as do restlessness, aggression, and deeper struggles.

This is how powerful the effects of lack-based vibrations can be on our children. And this is how simply they can be uprooted. Not by writing lists of what we want. Not by endlessly visualizing where we want to be. A single thought arising from our authentic self—a place where we feel worthy, peaceful, and fulfilled—allows us to forget our desire in the very next moment. And then, like a bolt from the blue, that small thought appears on our path, already realized. To me, this is manifestation in its truest sense. Everything must be in its proper place, and not even the slightest effort should be required for the most beautiful things and the right people to enter our lives. I have no doubt that something similar has happened to you as well, and that you would like to experience more of it in this effortless way.

Did you recognize yourself in these words?

If you are ready for positive change and genuine support that can help you leave your fears behind, awaken your inner strength, find peace, and create even better relationships with those around you, then do not ignore that feeling. Take the next step and discover what can truly help you.